Men often have the best of intentions, but sometimes they do things that drive women up the wall. Things we would assume to be basic knowledge or common decency. We found a thread on a popular online forum where women were discussing specific things they wished men would stop doing. Here’s what they had to say.
1. Dirty Hands
Someone said, “‘I’ll never forget the night my husband came home from bowling and immediately tried being intimate (usually fine, but) with his nasty bowling fingers. Sir, if you don’t get your bacteria-glowing fingers away from me.”
2. Stop Flirting
Someone said, “If a woman tells you she’s a lesbian when you’re flirting, it means one of two things:
1: She is a lesbian.
2: She is pretending to be a lesbian, so you’ll stop flirting with her.
Either way, you should stop flirting.”
3. Unsolicited Pictures
“Please stop sending pics of your privates to random women online. It’s just straight-up creepy and gross. If a woman wants to see it, she’ll ask for a picture,” one woman said.
4. Weird Self Labels
Another replied, “Calling yourself an “alpha” or “sigma” male. You aren’t necessarily hurting anyone by doing it, but no one takes you seriously when you talk like that.”
5. No Touching
A user said, “When you need to get past me, please don’t put your hands on my waist/hips/lower back to move me aside. I don’t know you. Stop touching me.”
6. Nothing’s Wrong
A person said, “I told a guy friend this. He would say, “What’s wrong” when I was reading or just sitting around. I finally said who sits around smiling all the time? Just because I’m not smiling doesn’t mean I’m in a bad mood. I’ll let you know if something is wrong.”
7. “No” Means “No”
Someone offered, “It’s wild to me how movies and TV shows treat a woman saying “No” like it means “You haven’t put enough effort in, keep trying.” I learned on my own that any form of “no” means no.”
8. Blame Game
“Blaming women because they don’t want to sleep with you. Ever heard of a self-fulfilling prophecy? Why would any woman want to be around someone who thinks like that,” one user said.
9. Respect Decisions
“If a woman says she doesn’t want children, don’t respond by saying she doesn’t know better. I don’t know where you guys get off of telling a grown woman that she doesn’t know what she wants, but it needs to stop. If she doesn’t want children, respect her decision,” a person said.
10. Too Emotional
Someone said, “Acting like anger isn’t an emotion and saying women are more emotional than men.”
Someone disagreed and said, “Women display a wider range of emotions, men have them too, but we’re taught not to express most of them.”
11. Being Needy
A user said, “Acting like the Big Man of the family, the provider, while being so needy that they can’t prepare a piece of toast or pot of coffee or pick out a pair of clean underwear for themselves.”
“So, I think it’s a thing only from Philly because I haven’t seen it anywhere else, but just randomly spitting on the sidewalk. It’s so nasty. One time some old man hacked a loogie on my lawn in front of my house. It was so gross,” someone said.
13. Unwanted Attention
A user said, “It would be great if I could walk two whole blocks while wearing shorts and a tank without being approached. Stop it. I’m not looking for attention. It’s just hot out.”
“If I’m at a bar with my partner, and you start flirting with me/making me uncomfortable, but then realize I’m with someone – don’t apologize to my partner. Apologize to ME,” someone said.
A person said, “That thing they do where they hit on you and put you down, then hit on you some more, hoping that lowers your self-esteem enough to date them.”
16. Cat Calls
One woman replied, “What’s the purpose? I don’t want to have sex with you just because you screamed “nice t*ts” at me from your car.”
17. Making Choices
“Making choices about women’s rights and women’s bodies when they have no clue what we as women go through and experience,” someone said.
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Inspired by this thread – photos for illustrative purposes only.