The media loves to portray young men getting the girl, hooking up, and having one-night stands as the ultimate high school or college goal. But is it all it’s cracked up to be? Men who have previously lived this type of lifestyle talk about their past hookups and tell us if it is all it is cracked up to be.
They Got Away
“I should have taken the good ones seriously,” one man said.
Another agreed, adding, “Yup. I say at least two got away from me. I still think about it, and one of them was ten years ago.”
She Heard About Me
“It was all fun and games until I met someone I liked who had “heard about me before” and never gave me a shot because she didn’t want to be just another notch on my belt. My approach to hookups changed a lot after that,” a person explained.
“It’s cool until you meet a girl that you date seriously. One night, she makes genuine love to you, lovemaking like you never experienced before, and then you realize that hookups are meaningless,” somebody expressed.
It’s Cool at First
A person exclaimed, “It was cool at first. Validation is great when you are young. But it gets old quickly, and I often feel empty afterward.”
I Wanted More
“I should have just settled down with some of the first few. They all wanted to date me, but I was young and naïve and just wanted more and more,” someone confessed.
I Don’t Remember Most
“Didn’t mean anything. I’d trade it all away to have been with the girl I’m with now the entire time. I don’t remember most of them, and I’ve never been happier than where I am now,” somebody mentioned.
Been There, Done That
“It was fun but ultimately unfulfilling. If anything, the only benefit is that when I finally settle down, I won’t be constantly looking over the fence because I’ve been there and done that sort of thing,” someone said.
It Was Mostly Ego
“I wish I didn’t. I wish it wasn’t mostly ego and a way to cope with feeling unloved. Wish I didn’t use it to validate my existence and worth,” a person expressed.
“I feel disgusted when I think of that period of my youth. Would never have done it had I had today’s maturity, I guess,” someone advised.
“Be kind, have fun, and treat everyone with care and respect. As for my thoughts: a hundred one-night stands doesn’t compare to the lovemaking and intimacy possible with a long-term partner you’re in love with,” somebody mentioned.
One man confessed, “It was fun, but it was exhausting. For some time, it felt like most of my existence was poured into the endeavor of getting it on with women. That is unsustainable.”
Waste of Time
“Honestly? Was just a waste of time and money, putting my health at risk for no reason other than to validate my ego,” a person exclaimed.
Helped Me Grow
“I don’t know if I can say I hooked up with “a lot” of chicks, but it’s comfortably in the double digits. Helped me grow, helped me learn what works and doesn’t work, and, more importantly, what I wanted,” someone stated.
A Dangerous Hobby
“Fun, but man, was it a gamble. Rolling the dice is a dangerous hobby, and sometimes it’s best to quit while you’re ahead,” a person explained.
“I should have spent more time with friends and making friends, pursuing other hobbies and skills. Lots of time wasted with women that amounted to short-term fun and nothing more,” someone said.
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