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A woman recently shared a story in a popular online forum looking for opinions on whether she was the as*hole for posting pictures of her baby shower on social media.

The Backstory

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The OP (original poster) explained that both she and her sister were pregnant at the same time, but unfortunately, due to a tragic accident, her sister ended up losing her baby.

The OP was, of course, sympathetic to her sister’s loss and extended an invite to her shower, but completely understood when the sister didn’t attend.

The Shower

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Afterward, the OP shared some photos from her special day on her social media account, and her sister was upset and sent her a text accusing her of “flaunting it” by posting. She also mentioned that her mother thought she should be more understanding of her sister’s situation, but her husband said there was nothing wrong with her posting a photo.

Feeling Apologetic

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The OP said she just wanted to be able to share her happy news, too, and was sorry the sister felt the way she did.

The Feedback

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Many Redditors weighed in on the OP’s post to tell her she was, in fact, wrong because she failed to mention in her post that her sister also lost her husband in the accident and that the OP did not attend her brother-in-law’s funeral because she had a fitting for her wedding dress.

Only Part of the Story

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Some of the opinions were very strong as they felt the OP intentionally left out the important details of her brother-in-law’s passing and skipping his funeral to garner more sympathy.

One Reddit user said, “YTA (you’re the as*hole). You didn’t include all the details, and on top of that, you’re not a very good person.”

Lacking Empathy?

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Another weighed in, “YTA, you left out that her husband passed away, and you skipped his funeral for a freaking DRESS FITTING. This just proves you have no empathy for sister.”

Initial Defense

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Other users initially defended the OP but later edited their opinion once the rest of the details were revealed, “NAH. You did nothing wrong – nor are your sister’s feelings wrong. She is grieving, and hearing other people’s good news about babies is going to hurt her – but the world doesn’t stop for her grief, and people are going to keep living their lives. Doing so isn’t “flaunting” anything.

On some social media platforms, there are ways of blocking just certain people from seeing particular posts. That might be a good way to continue to share your life with your friends & family while shielding your sister from anything baby-related.

Changing Assessments

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EDIT: In light of further comments from the OP showing she’s resistant to making the minor effort to restrict her post audience to spare her sister pain, I’m changing my assessment to YTA.”

Were They Justified?

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Do you think the OP was in the wrong for sharing pictures of her special day on social media? Do you think her sister and mother were justified in being upset with her, or do you think they were being too harsh?

Her Entire Family is Angry With Her for Telling Her Sister She Was Adopted

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Families are beloved but undoubtedly complicated. Every family is different, and all of them come with unique challenges. One woman asks the internet to help her decide if she was wrong to tell her sister they were adopted. Her Entire Family is Angry With Her for Telling Her Sister She Was Adopted

He Caught His Son Pulling a Mean Prank on Someone and Punished Him Too Harshly

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Raising children is full of challenges. It’s hard work bringing up decent, balanced people. One of the most vital lessons is how to treat other people. One man wants to know, is he wrong for punishing his son for a prank? He Caught His Son Pulling a Mean Prank on Someone and Punished Him Too Harshly

She Wants To Hire a Sitter To Help When She’s Sick and Her Husband Won’t Get on Board

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A Reddit user shares her story of expecting her husband to give her some of his sick days so that she can take the day off. She Wants To Hire a Sitter To Help When She’s Sick and Her Husband Won’t Get on Board

Her Sister-in-Law Won’t Let Her Bring Her Newborn to Her Wedding, and She’s Furious

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Your wedding day is all about you and your partner—a day to celebrate your commitment to one another with your closest friends and family. Sometimes though, the vision for the day requires restrictions on the guest list. One woman asks a popular online forum if she’s an a**hole for not letting her sister-in-law bring her newborn to their wedding. Her Sister-in-Law Won’t Let Her Bring Her Newborn to Her Wedding, and She’s Furious

Her Husband Left Her and Their Kids, and Her Mom Won’t Let Them Move in With Her

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When our loved ones turn to us for support during trying times, we can find that we don’t always have the same idea of what “support” means. When one woman’s attempt to help isn’t well received, she asks on a popular online forum; is she the a**hole for getting her daughter an apartment? Her Husband Left Her and Their Kids, and Her Mom Won’t Let Them Move in With Her

Inspired by this thread – photos for illustrative purposes only.

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